Can A Baby Teach Your Business?

I am now a grandfather many times over; looking back I now realize that when I was a father to my five children --- I was too busy.

I was busy working, and helping in the home. I could teach my children about manners, money, or how to run a home or small business. But I could not learn from my children because --- I was too busy.

In 2011, I had a stroke which turned my world upside down. I started again --- to speak, and write with a keyboard. After awhile, I even began learning to use sign language.

In April 2015, my tenth grandchild was born, and he is beautiful. All children are beautiful, but grandchildren are special. I knew my tenth grandchild would teach me about learning to communicate (again). Before his tongue could form the word for "Papa," he was teaching me; teaching me to communicate with his three baby languages:

Smiling with the eyes

Habilidades

(Spanish word meaning “abilities/skills” anything learned)

Sign language

Here’s what I’ve learned from my grand baby and how to use it in business.

Smiling with the eyes

Before babies move their mouths to smile, they start smiling with their eyes. Marty, my wife, tells about the birth of her son. When she got through the labor, the doctor picked up the baby and put him on her stomach. But the baby would not open his eyes because the lights were too strong. So she pulled a sheet up over his head, and peeked at him. He looked up at her, his eyes met hers --- smiling eyes --- that was 35 years ago.  

How can smiling baby eyes help your business?

Perhaps you have looked at your face in a mirror --- more than a thousand times. But have you ever really looked into your eyes in a mirror? Go get a mirror. Observe your eyes, without thinking about your face, your smile, your nose, your ears, etc. Just see your eyes. Just think about your eyes and you will see what you’ve never noticed before.

Now try this. While looking into your eyes, think about your boss, or the policeman who gave you a ticket while your car was parked in the driveway of your house (I remember it like it was yesterday, but it was ten years ago) or a similar event or experience that you recall intensely. Did your eyes change; did they become filled with anger and look mean?

Again, while looking in the mirror, think about your eyes while holding a baby, or playing ball with a five-year-old, or blowing bubbles for your neighbor’s adorable toddler. How did your eyes change, are they very soft now?

One more time, were not quite finished, so keep looking in that mirror. Now think about your eyes when you’re at work. What do your employees see in your eyes? Do your eyes show disappointment, frustration, or are your eyes showing a loving, compassionate, living person? Are your eyes ‘smiling’ at your employees? Which would you rather work with/for, a glower-eyed frump, or a person that makes your soul glow every time they look at you?

Powerful stuff, those smiling eyes.

Habilidades (a Spanish word meaning abilities, skills- anything learned.)

Babies initially learn habilidades by listening to their families. Babies are highly attuned to the rhythm and tones from singing, humming, whistling, and the flow of any spoken language. The first sounds a baby learns to make, like cooing, and sing-songy gibberish, create the foundation for language, communication, and the ability to learn new skills (habilidades).

I was born in California, and lived in Nevada. My mother and father gave me the language of the Western States, with some Spanish expressions thrown in for flavor.  My wife was born in South Carolina, her mother and father taught her the Southern language with all of its nuances. When my wife moved to California she could have learned the Western habilidades, choosing to keep only her Southern drawl. She didn’t want to. She wanted to show her parents that her familia habilidades (family skills) like Southern hospitality and a deep devotion to family were still who she was.  

 

How can this help you do better business?

Your business is your baby. Listen to your baby. Listen for the sing-songy gibberish, the rhythms and tones that form the language of your business, your habilidade. Ford Corporation has a habilidade, "Quality means doing it right when no one is looking." Apple Corporation has a habilidade, "The ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do."

What is the habilidade for your business?

Sign Language

When you were only months old, your mother could probably tell when you were over tired, or even bored. Many babies have languages that only the baby’s mama can understand. For example, a little hand gently cradling an ear, or both arms casually raised over the head mean “I’m tired.” (We intend to teach actual sign language to our tenth grand baby.)

 

You use sign language in your business whether you’re aware of it or not. Every business has a sign language. Here are some ancient sign languages for business.

In the old days, when a gladiator was going to kill the competitor, the crowd would give a "thumbs up" to let the competitor live.

 If the crowd did not like the competitor, the crowd would give a "thumbs down" to kill the competitor.

We still use thumbs up and thumbs down in business, and in some businesses, the number of thumbs up or down can mean the life or death of an idea, product, or even an entire business entity.

Here are some common hand signals. Would these be used in your business? Are there other signs that may communicate your habilidade better?

 

At TED, Chris Lonsdale shows how to become a master of foreign language --- in six

months --- start with the habilidade.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d0yGdNEWdn0

 

Be happy, healthy, wise, and abundance,

Tom Van Drielen

Alena Van Drielen (My daughter who helps me with my newsletters. (She is a great writer, but she does not believe her habilidades.)

 

Symbiosis Enterprises

1175 Branham Lane #18907

San Jose, Ca. 95118

Five emotions will change your life, for good or bad.

This sounds simple --- yet can be very difficult. Since the majority of us tend to have our emotions arise unconsciously. You might not be deliberately selecting your emotions on a daily basis. There are hundreds of emotions, but five emotions change your life for good or bad.

1. Emotional Radiance  

Emotional Radiance (ER) amplifies emotion. ER increases all love and increases all fear. All emotions radiate in the direction of one or the other.

Painful emotions felt in relation to a lover’s quarrel, money vanished, and health challenges radiate in the fear spectrum.  So when your Emotional Radiance points toward fear, you feel anger, frustration, disappointment, etc.

Activate your ER toward the good stuff in life, and particularly love and wealth, so that the emotions you feel toward love, money, and finances are expressed as joy, excitement, hope, love and gratitude.

How can you build your emotional radiance with love, abundance, and non-material goods?

Try beginning and ending each day with a ceremony that rejoices in abundance and emotionally excites or uplifts you. Choose an inspiring poem or music, a visually powerful video, or beautiful picture. And then add in your own declarations of health for some added energy.

2. Perceptual Radiance

Perceptual Radiance (PR) is determined by how you habitually perceive the world. Tony Robbins wrote if you could change one word, you could walk barefoot on hot coals. The one word he would change is the word "percept [ion]."

Your brain has hardwired itself to perceive your current reality in a specific way – and not necessarily an accurate way --- based on the perceptions you consistently had in the past.

It has also created strong connections: pairing certain events, people and physical sensations --- with particular emotional states.

In other words, you perceive your present reality as a repetition of your past emotional experiences, even when the actual reality may be different. What you perceive triggers those past emotions all over again --- both good and bad emotions! This leads to a vicious cycle or broken record of the past that is literally hardwired into your brain and biology (remember that your emotions are also chemical and biological).

How can you rewire your brain to align your perception with your desires? The Soichiro Honda, founder Honda Corporation, uses the words "Kick out the ladder!" Here video, from Honda Corporation, which catches the heart of the Honda founder. http://www.symbiosis4u.us/MP4/IntoTheUnknown.html

There are several ways to accomplish this such as vigilant thinking, affirmations or thought replacement (every time you catch yourself thinking something negative, replace it with a positive thought). However thinking requires significant willpower, time and effort. Most of us simply don’t have the regular time or dependable willpower --- kick out the ladder.

3. Informational Radiance

Informational Radiance (IR) is simply the knowledge, and facts, you speak, write, or signify in some way. You communicate and reason – with yourself or with others.

The information you learn and commit to (through belief, teaching or demonstrating) is used to validate your perceptions and emotions. As your IR aligns with what you want, you feel good, or feel bad --- automatically.

You’ll also find that the more knowledge you gain about yourself and the way you operate best to get what you want… the easier it becomes to achieve your goals because you’re working with yourself, rather than against yourself.

4. Behavioral Radiance

Behavioral Radiance (BR) is established through your habitual actions, the concrete ways you communicate your inner emotions to the outside world and the responses you receive back from the world. This interaction is called mirroring. What you do comes back to you. This is where the rubber meets the road.

You transform your own Emotional Radiance, through the mirrors of Behavioral Radiance. In other words, the responses you receive from the outside world change how you feel. It’s important however to distinguish between intended actions (mind) and habitual behaviors (emotions).

It is your Behavioral Radiance that needs to be transformed.  Because intended actions (mind) cannot hope to compete with your 10,000 habitual words (emotions): distractions, procrastinations, physical postures, and habitual choices (such as what to eat or where to spend your time) that you make every single day.

Science says that humans create a new habit in 21 days. I recommend focusing on your Behavioral Radiance for at least 60 days to create a habit. Since we’re all human, we might miss a few days here or there in the 21 day --- that why the 60 days. You can with start with the 21 days every time you hiccup (one second) on your BR, you begin again for 21 days.

5. Reciprocal Radiance

What we radiate --- returns to us. Likewise, what others radiate toward us can affect our own frequency. This is why your outer environment and the people you allow into your space can largely determine your happiness and income levels.

Think about five friends who have been friends for five years. Five years ago, those five friends’ incomes were different; some had more education than others, and they had diverse dreams. In most cases, after five years all five friends will have about the same amount of income, or they will stop being friends. They simply no longer radiate on the same frequency.

How is this possible? At a scientific level it is because closed systems of energy must maintain equilibrium. When you exchange energy with another person (through exchanging ideas, emotions, conversation or physical engagement) you open your system to their system and vice versa.

You and a new friend create a new closed system and must eventually reach equilibrium. If you continue to share energy, and stay in each other’s energy fields, (which does not require close physical proximity, but rather emotional proximity) you reach balance.

Therefore when someone projects an emotion towards you, and you engage them in any way that allows an exchange of energy. You are naturally triggered to respond with emotions of your own.

For example, when someone showers you with supportive energy you will naturally feel peace, ease, protection and safety. When someone radiates love and joy you will naturally feel more buoyant and carefree or joyous around them --- that is abundance.

In this way our reciprocal energies “bounce” back and forth and build in intensity as they reinforce each other.

You can learn more about how we orchestrate this reciprocal radiance here!

Five words change your life, if you get out of your own way?

Be happy, healthy, wise, and abundance,

Tom Van Drielen

 

Symbiosis Enterprises

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San Jose, Ca. 95118

http://www.symbiosis4u.us

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